{"id":16453,"date":"2018-01-30T09:17:22","date_gmt":"2018-01-29T22:17:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/margiewarrellold.flywheelsites.com\/?p=16453"},"modified":"2018-01-30T09:17:22","modified_gmt":"2018-01-29T22:17:22","slug":"stop-following-bad-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/stop-following-bad-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Intuitive Ways to Discern Good Advice From Bad"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Let\u2019s face it. If you\u2019re looking for advice, you\u2019ll find no shortage of it\u2014on how to invest your money, raise your kids or navigate your next career move.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been given copious amounts of advice over the years. \u201cYou should always wear red,\u201d one branding expert told me. It\u2019s your, &#8220;&#8230; brand color&#8221;.\u00a0 I pondered it for a while but decided the idea of always wearing red, as much as I love the color, would grow incredibly tiresome and constraining. I like green and blue and pink and some days I just feel like wearing black.<\/p>\n<p>No doubt you\u2019ve also been given plenty of well-intentioned advice. Perhaps, like me, you have also not been sure which bits to take and which to leave. Certainly for me, learning to discern good advice from bad has come from following too much of the latter. So if you\u2019re facing a decision and unsure what to do or who to consult, here\u2019s my two cents of advice to you\u2026<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/jg28bDC2S-I\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h4><strong>1. Seek advice from multiple sources.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>If everyone you know is telling you to do the same thing, it\u2019s a sign that either a) it\u2019s a wise thing to do, or b) your network is very same-same. To ensure it\u2019s not the latter, make sure you reach out to a diverse pool of people for their opinion and guidance. When I moved to Dallas in 2001, I relied only on one realtor\u2019s advice on where to live. It was a mistake. As I got to know the area better, I realized there were numerous areas I would have enjoyed living in more. I\u2019ve always consulted multiple sources since.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>2. Listen with an open mind.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>There are many people who have experience, insight and expertise that you don\u2019t so extract as much value from it as you can. There\u2019s no point reinventing the wheel or\u00a0making the same mistakes they did. That said, as you listen, also consider how their values, circumstances, goals and personality differ from your own. A winning formula for one person doesn\u2019t always work the same for another.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>3. Consider self-interest.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>People always speak from some concern or need. Maybe it\u2019s purely to help you, but very often it\u2019s also to make them feel better about their own choices (even at an unconscious level). Like which school you should go to (or send your kids to) or the best place to purchase property. So just consider what agenda, bias, insecurity or unspoken need might be driving their advice. This doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s not still good advice, but it might.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>4. Tune into your intuition.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Once I feel I\u2019ve got a broad enough base of advice, I then take some time to tune into my gut and ask myself,\u00a0\u201cWhat feels right\u00a0for me, right now?\u201d\u00a0When it comes to\u00a0a big decision in life, sometimes you have to stop all the analysis and just ask yourself what feels right for you. If a certain path feels right, then it probably is. And if it doesn\u2019t? Then it\u2019s probably not! Sure do your research, poll the experts, but in the end,\u00a0don\u2019t ignore gut instinct. I believe we all have an \u2018inner sage\u2019 that\u2019s trying to point us in the right direction. Tune into it.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>5. Give yourself permission to make an imperfect decision.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Too often we let our fear of making a wrong decision keep us from making a right one. It\u2019s how people arrive at a point of paralysis by analysis.\u00a0 To avoid tying yourself in a big knot\u2014trying to figure out the best thing to do\u2014give yourself permission to make the best decision you can right now, with what you know right now, with the advice you\u2019ve been given up to now.\u00a0 If down the track you come to a point that you think you need to adjust course, then do so. Just don\u2019t spend too much time trying to find the perfect person to give you the perfect advice. It could be a long, frustrating and futile wait.<\/p>\n<p>Never give anyone else the carte blanche authority to decide what is best for you, because no one knows you (or appreciates your circumstances) better than you.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s all the advice I\u2019ve got. Take what works. Ditch the rest!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Let\u2019s face it. If you\u2019re looking for advice, you\u2019ll find no shortage of it\u2014on how to invest your money, raise your kids or navigate your next career move. I\u2019ve been given copious amounts of advice over the years. \u201cYou should always wear red,\u201d one branding expert told me. 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