{"id":12949,"date":"2016-05-11T20:45:51","date_gmt":"2016-05-12T00:45:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/margiewarrellold.flywheelsites.com\/?p=12949"},"modified":"2016-05-11T20:45:51","modified_gmt":"2016-05-12T00:45:51","slug":"energy-is-contagious","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/energy-is-contagious\/","title":{"rendered":"Don&#8217;t spread your stress! Sage advice from Kathy Calvin, President, UNF"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>During my recent trip to Washington D.C. I\u00a0sat down with Kathy Calvin, President and CEO of the <a href=\"http:\/\/unfoundation.org\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">United Nations Foundation<\/a> whose job it is to steward over $1 billion dollars entrusted to the UNF. \u00a0Kathy and I discussed an issue we are both passionate about &#8211; women, <a href=\"https:\/\/rawcourage.tv\/kathy-calvin-closing-gender-gap-pt-1\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">gender equality and the gender \u2018confidence gap\u2019<\/a> \u2013 as well as what she\u2019s learnt on managing stress and being a good leader in a very demanding and highly visible position.<\/p>\n<p>You can watch my full interview with Kathy for <a href=\"https:\/\/rawcourage.tv\/unf-president-kathy-calvin-women-equality-bold-full-interview\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">RawCourage.TV on this link<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>One of the things Kathy shared with me (in the clip below) is how important it is to take responsibility for the energy you are sharing with those around you.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Manage Expectations To Avoid Stress: Kathy Calvin (Pt 7)\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/oZuLziPrvLM?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>While it\u2019s easy to get caught up in the drama of all that you have going on in your work and life, allowing your stress and negative energy to impact how you interact with others can profoundly undermine the quality of your relationship (including your ability to lead!) I mean, where\u2019s the fun hanging out with an emotional vampire? Accordingly, <strong>if all you\u2019re doing is focusing on what you don\u2019t have, can\u2019t do or might go wrong, then that\u2019s the impact you\u2019re likely having on others.<\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/ctt.ec\/ePZm1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/clicktotweet.com\/img\/bg-twitter.png\" alt=\"Tweet: If you\u2019re focusing on what u don\u2019t have\/can\u2019t do, likely that\u2019s the impact you\u2019re having on others. @MargieWarrell http:\/\/ctt.ec\/ePZm1+\" width=\"30\" height=\"20\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Of course you may have plenty of justifications for why you\u2019re feeling stressed. But who doesn&#8217;t? Just read the paper if you&#8217;re looking for a few.<\/p>\n<p>Taking full responsibility for how you show up at your work, for your family, and for all those you interact with is crucial for your success in work and in life.\u00a0So as you read this today, I encourage you to <strong>think about who you are being for the people around you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Someone who lifts others up, bringing optimism, enthusiasm, humor, calmness and encouragement.<\/p>\n<p>Or someone who doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<h4>Stress isn&#8217;t the enemy. It&#8217;s stressful thinking you must\u00a0guard against.<a href=\"http:\/\/ctt.ec\/_cSie\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/clicktotweet.com\/img\/bg-twitter.png\" alt=\"Tweet: Stress isn\u2019t the enemy. It\u2019s stressful thinking you must guard against. @MargieWarrell http:\/\/ctt.ec\/_cSie+\" width=\"30\" height=\"20\" \/><\/a><\/h4>\n<p>While it\u2019s easy to justify stress and negativity, that doesn\u2019t mean it serves you.\u00a0You can reduce stress in your life by changing the patterns of thought and behavior that create it and shifting where it resides in your body. Try these ideas.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>1. Change your\u00a0language.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, \u201cThere\u2019s no such thing as stress. Just people having stressful thoughts.\u201d Accordingly, when all you do is talk about how stressed you are, and what\u2019s causing your stress, it amplifies it. Deciding not to talk about it and to use different language helps to shift it. For instance, instead of talking about how stressed you are or how stressful your job is, say you\u2019ve got a lot on but you know you can handle it.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>2. Shift your\u00a0body.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Stress makes us take shallow breaths and to hunker down as though we are going into battle. Hence the tightness you will feel around your shoulders. Get outside for a walk or run, dance to your favorite (preferably not heavy metal!) music, stand tall or just take a few deep breaths \u2013 all these can help short circuit your stress response. Try it!<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>3. Manage\u00a0your emotions.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You can&#8217;t not feel emotions, but you can manage them as they arise. \u00a0The more often we feel any particular emotion \u2013 whether anxiety, sadness or gratitude \u2013 the more it sets up permanent residence in our lives. We trigger and amplify those emotions by both what we are focused on (what we have vs. what we don\u2019t have) and the story we create about it. So deciding to shift your focus and retell another story can alleviate stress from your life. Likewise engaging in an activity that fuels a positive emotion (watching a comedy, gardening, playing with your kids or looking through vacation photos) can dislodge stress and nurture optimism.<\/p>\n<p>To watch more of my interviews with Kathy Calvin and other pretty cool people pop over to <a href=\"https:\/\/rawcourage.tv\/interviews-on-courage\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">RawCourage.TV\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I also regularly post them onto Facebook. So if we aren&#8217;t hanging out there occasionally, let&#8217;s change that.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.Facebook.com\/MargieWarrell\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">www.Facebook.com\/MargieWarrell\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-12952 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/05\/ArticleFooter-500x250.jpg\" alt=\"ArticleFooter\" width=\"500\" height=\"250\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>During my recent trip to Washington D.C. 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