{"id":12736,"date":"2016-05-17T23:20:03","date_gmt":"2016-05-18T03:20:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/margiewarrellold.flywheelsites.com\/?p=12736"},"modified":"2016-05-17T23:20:03","modified_gmt":"2016-05-18T03:20:03","slug":"lean_toward_risk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/lean_toward_risk\/","title":{"rendered":"Underestimating yourself? Dare to dive in!"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>&#8220;Most\u00a0people live in a restricted\u00a0circle of their potential.&#8221;\u00a0William James<\/em><\/h3>\n<p>I\u2019ll never forget where I was the day that a mental image change the direction of my life. It was March 2002 and I was laying on a beach south of\u00a0Cancun, Mexico, doing a visualization exercise from\u00a0a book\u00a0I&#8217;d picked up at an airport bookstore. It required\u00a0imagining the details of the life I wanted to be living ten years out. I had just\u00a0moved to the USA from Australia where I knew close to no-one, had three children under four and wanted to embark on a new career path. Oh, and it was in\u00a0the fear-filled months following the attacks of 9\/11.<\/p>\n<p>So I&#8217;m lying there doing my visualisation and suddenly, without warning, into my minds eye popped an image of my family ten years out. Only problem was that in it were <em>four<\/em> children, not three.<\/p>\n<p><em>What?*!?!<\/em> I slapped my face.<\/p>\n<p>It was too late. Deep down in my heart of hearts I knew that the highest vision for my life was to pursue my new calling in coaching and empowerment\u00a0<em>and<\/em> to have a fourth child. Needless to say, the idea of doing both terrified me as much as it inspired me. I simply didn\u2019t think I could and, back then, I didn&#8217;t know anyone that was.<\/p>\n<p>Fortunately\u00a0for me, I married a man who has often believed in me more than I have\u00a0myself (still does!) and with his support, we took the plunge toward baby number four. A year later, Matthew Raymond arrived into the world. Screaming loudly. \u00a0He&#8217;s thirteen now.<\/p>\n<p>Looking back now, it\u2019s easy for me to see that having four children and pursuing a new career path was possible. A tad\u00a0chaotic\u00a0sometimes, a juggle always, but infinitely possible with a \u2018forget perfect\u2019 mindset. It\u2019s why, when asked what advice I would give to a younger me, I always say this:<\/p>\n<p><strong><em><span style=\"font-size: 20px;\">Don&#8217;t underestimate yourself. Back\u00a0yourself more, doubt\u00a0yourself less, dive in and take the risk!<\/span><\/em><\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/ctt.ec\/cL0SI\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/clicktotweet.com\/img\/bg-twitter.png\" alt=\"Tweet: Don't underestimate yourself. Back\u00a0yourself more, doubt\u00a0yourself less, dive in and take the risk! #Courage http:\/\/ctt.ec\/cL0SI+\" width=\"30\" height=\"20\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VXkQDizVvx0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>While I know we all have our own unique set of unconscious biases, one that can have a huge toll on the course of our lives is our tendency to overestimate the risks (as I share in the video above) and to \u00a0underestimate ourselves.\u00a0Underestimating yourself can\u00a0show up in every area of your\u00a0life and impact not only the size of your ambitions but your willingness to change those aspects of your life that\u00a0don&#8217;t inspire you.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>We underestimate our ability as leaders, change-makers and entrepreneurs.<\/li>\n<li>We (women) underestimate our\u00a0ability to be great mothers <em>and<\/em> pursue ambitions outside the home.<\/li>\n<li>We underestimate our ability to make money and build wealth.<\/li>\n<li>We underestimate our ability to take risks and handle failure.<\/li>\n<li>We underestimate our ability to influence authority and\u00a0change the status quo.<\/li>\n<li>We underestimate our ability to stand independently on\u00a0our own two feet.<\/li>\n<li>We underestimate our ability to weather life&#8217;s storms.<\/li>\n<li>We underestimate our ability to handle the pressure that come with\u00a0power.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Of course, not everyone\u00a0underestimates themselves in all these ways. Some never do. But I\u2019m sure that if you don\u2019t recognize yourself in any of these, you\u2019ll recognize someone\u00a0you know.<\/p>\n<p>Which begs the question:<\/p>\n<p><strong>What possibilities would open up for you &#8211; in work, love, leadership and life &#8211; if you dared to trust that you are capable of anything, <em>anything<\/em>, you set your mind upon?<\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/ctt.ec\/2Uy4T\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/clicktotweet.com\/img\/bg-twitter.png\" alt=\"Tweet: What possibilities would open up for you if you dared to trust that you are capable of anything? @MargieWarrell http:\/\/ctt.ec\/2Uy4T+\" width=\"30\" height=\"20\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not saying that you can do <em>everything<\/em>, <em>perfectly<\/em>, <em>now<\/em>. I\u2019m simply saying that if there\u2019s some goal or vision that\u2019s calling you \u2013 whether to lead a global business, have another child, return to study, launch a start-up or start a movement, then it\u2019s because you have everything you need inside you to turn it into a reality.<\/p>\n<p>A few thousand years ago the Chinese philosopher Lao Tsu observed \u201cWe are all capable of much more than we think we are.\u201d This is as true now as ever (perhaps with the exception of a few politicians)\u00a0and doubly true for women.<\/p>\n<p>So before you finish reading this article, caste your mind ahead ten years from now and connect to the grandest, highest vision for your life. What would you love to be doing? Who would you love to be impacting? How would you be using your strengths, skills, creativity and passion in a way that not only honours the best of who you are, but makes the biggest possible mark on the world you inhabit?<\/p>\n<p>The truth is that there are amazing things that will never be done if you don\u2019t do them. But doing them will take courage.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Courage to trust that you are more than enough.<\/li>\n<li>Courage to risk failing or falling short in the process.<\/li>\n<li>Courage to put yourself out there, again and again and again.<\/li>\n<li>Courage to pick yourself up when you slip up.<\/li>\n<li>Courage to stand in your power, and own your imperfection.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And courage to let go the beliefs, excuses, doubts, people and safety-blankets that are keeping you from becoming, creating and contributing all that inspires you most deeply.<\/p>\n<p>Are you ready?<\/p>\n<p>Go on, be brave.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/books\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-13026 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/05\/ArticleFooter-1-500x250.jpg\" alt=\"ArticleFooter\" width=\"500\" height=\"250\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Most\u00a0people live in a restricted\u00a0circle of their potential.&#8221;\u00a0William James I\u2019ll never forget where I was the day that a mental image change the direction of my life. 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