{"id":12214,"date":"2015-09-14T21:12:08","date_gmt":"2015-09-14T21:12:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/margiewarrellold.flywheelsites.com\/?p=11055"},"modified":"2015-09-14T21:12:08","modified_gmt":"2015-09-14T21:12:08","slug":"need-to-call-it-quits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/need-to-call-it-quits\/","title":{"rendered":"Need To Call It Quits?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I recall once holding on to a pair shoes that made my feet ache every time I wore them for no other reason than I paid a lot for them. In hindsight, it was pretty stupid. I only remember thinking, \u201cI need to get my money\u2019s worth!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>What about you?<br \/>\nEver stayed the course with something because you\u2019d invested so much into it, despite its increasing lack of progress, pleasure or both?<br \/>\nEver held on to something you bought (like a poor fitting jacket) because it was expensive?<br \/>\nEver kept reading a book or watching a movie right to the end, despite not actually enjoying it?<\/p>\n<p>If you answered yes to any of these questions then you\u2019ve experienced a phenomena psychologist\u2019s call \u201csunk-cost bias.\u201d It\u2019s our tendency to continue investing in a losing proposition because of what it\u2019s already cost us. Needless to say, we can all fall prey to sunk-cost bias because we\u2019re all innately loss averse. I mean, \u00a0let\u2019s be honest, who wants to take a loss or admit they wasted money, energy or years of their life that could have been better spent?<\/p>\n<p>Biting the bullet and acknowledging that our choice to invest in something (or someone) that is no longer serving us is difficult; sometimes agonizingly so.\u00a0It\u2019s why people stay in careers they loathe and relationships that leave them lonely. It\u2019s why \u2018smart\u2019 people stick with blindingly obvious bad investments for far too long, clinging on with blind optimism. It\u2019s why I kept those shoes so long and you likely have a few things in your wardrobe right now that, if you had the choice whether to buy them again, you wouldn\u2019t!<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>\u00a0If you ever find yourself in a hole, stop digging.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>But here\u2019s the deal. If you ever find yourself in a hole, stop digging. Because investing more into something that\u2019s already not working, won\u2019t make it better.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Every day (or dollar) you spend on something that isn\u2019t enriching your life in some way, is a day you aren\u2019t investing in something that could.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Calling It Quits &amp; Failing Forward: Layne Beachley (Pt 6)\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/HrMVsaY2jxc?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><br \/>\nGeneral George S. Patton once said, \u201cCourage is holding on a minute longer.\u201d Sometimes that\u2019s true but if you\u2019ve been holding on for so long your hands have grown calloused then maybe, just maybe, the bravest thing you could\u00a0do is to let go!<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong> The longer you let your fear of feeling like a failure keep you from calling it quits, the harder it will become to start over and begin anew.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Our sunk-cost bias can send us into a vicious cycle and derail our decisions. It\u2019s also why the presumably smart people within the British and French Governments kept investing in the Concorde for four decades &#8211; year after year, sunk million after sunk million \u2013 before they finally bit that bullet and conceded the Concorde was simply not commercial.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s not to say that your initial decision was mistake. Not at all. We often learn far more from the choices that don\u2019t produce the outcomes we want (i.e. our mistakes), than from the choices that do.<a href=\"http:\/\/ctt.ec\/yLc9K\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/clicktotweet.com\/img\/bg-twitter.png\" alt=\"Tweet: We often learn more from the choices that don\u2019t produce outcomes we want than from the choices that do. @MargieWarrell \" width=\"34\" height=\"22\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The biggest mistakes people make are not avoiding mistakes (avoiding all risks is lethal!), rather refusing to admit when they\u2019ve made them. Certainly, the most successful people I\u2019ve met over the years \u2013 including seven-time world champion surfing pro Layne Beachley featured in the\u00a0interview above\u00a0&#8211; aren\u2019t those who never make mistakes; they are those who are quick to admit when they do. They fail fast and quit quickly (a chapter title in <a title=\"Brave\" href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/1BT9DpV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Brave<\/a>!)<\/p>\n<p>Continuing down a path that isn\u2019t taking you where you want to go for no other reason than you\u2019ve already walked a long way isn\u2019t courageous. It\u2019s crazy. Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is to call it a day, learn the lessons and move on. As Richard Branson has said, \u201c<em>Don\u2019t be embarrassed by your failures, but learn from them and start again.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So let me ask you, where might you be investing \u2013 time, talent, money, energy or skills \u2013 in something primarily because of how much you\u2019ve already put into it? And how might calling it a day free you up to invest in something that could ultimately serve you (and the world) so much more?<br \/>\n<!--donotpaginate--><br \/>\nWhile calling it quits on something you\u2019ve invested in can be painful, it frees up your resources to pursue new opportunities and create fresh beginnings that will make you wonder why you ever held on for so long.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I recall once holding on to a pair shoes that made my feet ache every time I wore them for no other reason than I paid a lot for them. In hindsight, it was pretty stupid. I only remember thinking, \u201cI need to get my money\u2019s worth!\u201d What about you? 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