{"id":10887,"date":"2015-08-10T01:35:35","date_gmt":"2015-08-10T01:35:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/margiewarrellold.flywheelsites.com\/?p=10887"},"modified":"2015-08-10T01:35:35","modified_gmt":"2015-08-10T01:35:35","slug":"for-the-sake-of-what","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/for-the-sake-of-what\/","title":{"rendered":"For The Sake Of What?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve just spent the last week\u00a0travelling around Australia speaking at\u00a0different conferences, including one with <a href=\"http:\/\/www.BusinessChicks.com.au\">Business Chicks<\/a> at Uluru in\u00a0Australia&#8217;s outback (I\u00a0posted some pics to <a class=\"validating\" href=\"http:\/\/www.Facebook.com\/margiewarrell\" data-cke-saved-href=\"http:\/\/www.Facebook.com\/margiewarrell\">Facebook<\/a> yesterday &#8211; it was pretty spectacular!)\u00a0A common thread that weaves through all my talks is the importance of being intentional in what we say and do.<\/p>\n<p>It makes sense right? \u00a0Yet, it begs the question:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Why do we so often <\/strong><strong><em>not<\/em>\u00a0take the actions what we know would serve us and others?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Obviously there\u2019s a whole book in the answer to that question (<a class=\"valid-link validation-enabled validating\" href=\"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/books\" data-cke-saved-href=\"https:\/\/margiewarrell.com\/books\">or several!<\/a>). But at the core of it, it\u2019s because we\u2019re wired to take the path of least resistance (and greatest short term pleasure &amp; minimal stress) and we\u2019re pretty lousy at judging how our actions today (or lack thereof)\u00a0will make us feel down the track.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s why people stay in jobs that leave them miserable and in relationships that make them lonely. It\u2019s why people spend beyond their means, racking up debt they know they can\u2019t pay off. It\u2019s why people avoid difficult conversations, opting instead to let issues fester\u00a0(sometimes for decades!) \u00a0It\u2019s why people procrastinate, investing\u00a0enormous energy justifying their excuses. And it\u2019s why, the #1 regret of the dying is that they wish they\u2019d taken more risks and been braver \u2013 left that job they loathed, had that third\u00a0child, shared their hurt, confided their struggle or simply embraced life with a greater sense of adventure.<br \/>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Be braver at work: Margie Warrell on Wall Street Journal\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/2i8Iw-GjGw8?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s also why it\u2019s crucial to be clear about what matters most to you in life;\u00a0how <em>you<\/em> want to measure \u2018success\u2019. Because if you aren&#8217;t, \u00a0it&#8217;s easy to fall into\u00a0into the path of least effort, least risk and least resistance &#8211; driven more by what scares us than by what inspires us.<\/p>\n<p>As I shared in my recent interview\u00a0with the Wall Street Journal, achieving anything worthwhile requires courage in some way \u2013 laying something you value on the line for something you value even more.\u00a0\u00a0But you must first ask yourself:<\/p>\n<p><strong>For the sake of what?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>For the sake of what are you willing to make a change you&#8217;ve been putting off?<\/li>\n<li>For the sake of what are you willing to brave a tough conversation?<\/li>\n<li>For the sake of what you are you willing to pursue a big goal that scares the socks off you?<\/li>\n<li>For the sake of what are you willing to risk criticism or rejection?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>As I wrote about in the opening chapter of <a class=\"valid-link validation-enabled validating\" href=\"http:\/\/trainthebrave.com\" data-cke-saved-href=\"http:\/\/trainthebrave.com\">Brave<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">&#8220;<strong>Knowing what you stand for is the foundation upon which bravery is built.<\/strong>&#8220;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\">When we connect with a strong\u00a0emotional reason for\u00a0doing something, it amplifies our motivation for action\u00a0and dilutes our fear. \u00a0Not\u00a0achieving what you want (or changing what you don&#8217;t) is never about a lack of opportunity or resources. It&#8217;s simply because you haven&#8217;t\u00a0found a big enough WHY to take action.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>So, for the sake of what are you willing to do something despite the well worn reasons you could make not to?<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a powerful question and one we must keep asking ourselves lest our innate desire for safety keep us from bravely creating the relationships and\u00a0life we yearn for most.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve just spent the last week\u00a0travelling around Australia speaking at\u00a0different conferences, including one with Business Chicks at Uluru in\u00a0Australia&#8217;s outback (I\u00a0posted some pics to Facebook yesterday &#8211; it was pretty spectacular!)\u00a0A common thread that weaves through all my talks is the importance of being intentional in what we say and do. It makes sense right? 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