You and I have been born into a time where we have more opportunity and\u00a0choice than ever before in history.<\/p>\n
But with the benefits of abundant choice comes with the\u00a0responsibility to make wise choices \u2013 ones that enable us to live deeper and\u00a0richer lives, not just more hectic and stressful ones.<\/p>\n
Which is why, as we get up earlier, go to bed later, and work harder to cram more\u00a0into our days, we have to be careful not to find ourselves living on the surface in\u00a0our efforts to do everything, perfectly, now.<\/p>\n
Of course the idea of ‘having it all’ is alluring. As a woman with a career and four\u00a0children, it\u2019s a question I\u2019m often asked: \u201cCan women have it all?\u201d<\/p>\n
The truth is that no one \u2013 male or female; kids or no kids – can ‘have it all.’ (Whatever ‘all’ is!) Every choice we make comes with a trade-off. Because whenever we commit\u00a0our time, talent and energy to one thing (whether raising children, building a\u00a0business, taking an extended vacation, or a bigger job) we are by default, limiting\u00a0our capacity to do other things. And while we can work hard to minimize the\u00a0trade-offs our choices bring, we can never avoid them.<\/p>\n
\nThe truth is that no one can ‘have it all’.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Our challenge is to be deliberate in the choices we make rather than being\u00a0reactive and opting for the course of least resistance or most immediate\u00a0gratification (e.g. people pleasing). If you\u2019ve ever said yes to someone only to\u00a0kick yourself later because it took time away from other priorities, then you\u2019ll\u00a0know how easy it is to fill up your day, week, and life with stuff<\/em>. Good stuff for\u00a0sure, but not always the most important stuff.<\/p>\n
Ultimately, what you choose not to do<\/em> is no less important than what you choose\u00a0to do<\/em>. But let\u2019s face it, saying no to invitations and passing up opportunities can\u00a0be hard. Fear of missing out or disappointing people is wired into our DNA. It\u2019s\u00a0why so many people find themselves living in the shallows \u2013 over stretched, over\u00a0committed and disconnected from\u00a0what\u00a0they yearn for\u00a0most.<\/p>\n
As I share in my latest video below, the busier you are, the\u00a0more important it is to schedule a regular time -out<\/em>, to disconnect from the noise\u00a0of life, and to reconnect with yourself. It\u2019s in the silence that you can hear the\u00a0voice of wisdom.<\/p>\n
https:\/\/youtu.be\/pHCbAT1csw0<\/p>\n
There are things that you, and only you<\/em>, can do with your one and only precious\u00a0life; things that will never be done if you don\u2019t do them. But you cannot make\u00a0your highest contribution, nor experience the depth of purpose and joy and\u00a0meaning in your daily life unless you are living from design, rather than default.<\/p>\n
\nBeing truly successful in your work and the big game of life isn\u2019t about
\ndoing\u00a0more<\/em>\u00a0things; it\u2019s about doing the\u00a0right<\/em>\u00a0things.
\nAnd like everything worthwhile, that takes courage.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\nIt takes courage to put aside your TO DO list, sit quietly\u00a0and to focus on who\u00a0you most want TO BE. Yet by doing so, we can reengage in the world with greater focus and ultimately be far more productive than we would be otherwise.<\/p>\n
After all, living well has never been about \u2018having it all\u2019. It\u2019s about aligning our actions with our deepest values and highest intentions. Likewise being successful in your work isn\u2019t about doing more<\/em> things; it\u2019s about doing the right<\/em> things. And like everything worthwhile, that takes courage.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019d like support in doing just that, I\u2019d love for you to take my 10 day Train the\u00a0Brave Challenge<\/strong> (free for anyone who gets a copy of Brave.) I\u2019ve received some\u00a0amazing endorsements from people who\u2019ve found it transformational. You\u00a0can read them at\u00a0TrainTheBrave.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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